uncertainty

How We Harm Our Patients With the Need to Be Certain (and Right)

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Carol’s Thirty-three Year Undiagnosed Illness

Carol and I were comfortably seated across from one another in my consultation room when I asked, as I do with all my new patients, what her goals were for our work together. She said without missing a beat, “I want to get my life back. I’ve been sick for thirty-three years. That’s half my life. I would like to be a well person and do what…

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The Upside of Our Uncertain Lives

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“The suspense is killing me.”

“I’m absolutely certain…”

“Because that’s how it’s always been.”

These words roll right off our tongues–unconsciously–because we’re wired and trained to resist uncertainty. Honestly, very little unsettles me more. I’m a bit squeamish about not knowing what happens next.

But we can go to extremes to “know for sure:”

  • By creating stories that just aren’t true.
  • By…

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