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Self-Care is Subversive

self-love, self-care, love yourself, self-healing, Karyn Shanks, Karyn Shanks MD, Big Energy

I saw this powerful quote the other day:

Self-love is a subversive act.

In trying to find who said it (I think it was Brene Brown), I came across this:

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.

-Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light (1988)

Nailed it. Both of them.

This is our trouble with self-care. It’s what I work the hardest on in…

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When Our Hearts Say, “No,” But Our Mouths Say, “Yes.”

how to say no, self-empowerment, stand up for yourself, empowerment, be true to yourself, empowered, strong, stress resilience

Have you every caught yourself saying, “yes,” when your body/your heart/ your mind screamed, “no?”

Yah, join the club.

I have enough trouble managing all the good stuff that my heart and mouth actually agree on—so many “yeses!”

What’s the story with the yeses we say but don’t really mean? The yeses that pile up and eventually overwhelm us?

For me, it’s my assumptions about what will happen if…

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Worthy

worthy, belonging, self acceptance, self esteem, heal yourself, self healing, heart centered, empower yourself, love yourself

Dear One,

Were we born this way?

Or are we just the unfortunate few (because, you know, look at all those perfectly happy people all around us, who smile at one another, who always sit together, who clearly have lifetime passes to their special tribes—the ones we don’t belong to)?

Searching (and hustling) for worthiness—for how to fit in and where we belong?

If we’d only lucked into the…

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