Empower Yourself

Why’s It So Hard to Ask for Help?

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Does asking for help make you squirm?

Yah, me too.

Why’s that?

I remember a time when I would NOT ask for help. Not ever. I thought I had to do it all myself. You know, pull myself up by the bootstraps, be tough and self-sufficient. Thinking I’d be a bother to others in asking for help or show some inherent flaw in my character, or weakness in my know-how.

Geeze, what crazy silly stories those…

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I’m Not Feeling Better: Is it Failure? Or is There More to Do?

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“This food plan isn’t working for me.”

“This treatment has done absolutely nothing.”

“I thought I’d be feeling better by now. This is a failure.”

 

Do these “failures” sound familiar?

Healing can be so hard. And can take so long.

What if you’re working hard? To recover your energy and wellbeing? To get your life back? And you still struggle?

Have you failed? Is your healing strategy a…

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How to Claim the Story of Your Power

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Have you ever been given a medical diagnosis or advise that you knew, deep in your heart of hearts, wasn’t correct? Like maybe they hadn’t heard your whole story and were leaving key parts out? Or maybe they’d heard you but went a direction you did not expect or just didn’t feel right to you?

What did you do?

Did you ask a lot of questions? Did you say, “that doesn’t seem right to me?”…

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How to Overcome Fearful Thinking for Life

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“This could go very, very wrong.”

“They might hate me for this.”

“This new, uncharted creative project might flop.”

“This investment is risky—it could fail.”

 

Recognize these fearful, anxious thoughts?

On the one hand, it’s good to be prepared and plan for what life might throw at us. Smart, right?

But what happens when we habitually lock onto those fearful stories about what could happen? In…

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How to Heal: Identify the Competing Commitment Standing in Your Way

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We all know how to live a healthy life, right?

We’re smart. We’re savvy. We’ve done our research. We know how to craft the perfect self-care plan (food, sleep, movement, meditation, and so on) to address our genetic legacy, our problems, and our many sensibilities about how we’d like to feel and function at our best.

But many of us just can’t make our best plans work. We can’t sustain…

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Release Grief Meditation (2019)

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We need tools to help us manage the challenging emotions of grief, like anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. While these emotions are entirely normal aspects of being human, they can get stuck. It’s important to give them assistance to flow and release.

I have used this simple breath visualization technique on difficult emotions that were too painful for me to take on with my mind. It’s easy to…

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It’s a Privilege of a Lifetime

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Do you ever wonder why we’re here? I mean really—why we’re really here?

How do we sum that up? Can we do it in just a few words?

I think Carl Jung did a pretty good job when he said this:

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you really are.”

I like this because it doesn’t presume a particular purpose with a definable outcome. (Whew!)

And it includes all of us—excluding no one because…

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Declutter: Create Space to Heal

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You’ve heard me say it a thousand times:  We’ve got to create space for healing to occur.

No matter what ails us, we go no where without focused attention to our problem and freedom from the toxins, irritants, and negative energy that get in our way.

An easy start is removing the clutter from our living spaces.

“Does it spark joy?”

You’ve heard those words, right?

The stuff whisperer, Marie…

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Mountaintop Wisdom: We’re Wired for the Climb

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What are the best solutions when life gets tough?

Stop our lives? Hang out on the mountain top? Get a divorce? Find a new job? Send the kids to boarding school?

Hmmm… sounds tempting, doesn’t it?

Yah, I want to get rid of the friction too sometimes.

I want to go straight to the bliss.

But what if I told you we thrive the most when we’re challenged? That we figure things out and grow our…

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Resuscitate the Fire in Your Belly

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We all need to revive the fire in our bellies from time to time. I love the way inspiring words and acts of others drop into my life to do just that.

Let this one wash over you:

“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a…

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