I have a problem with nice.
Do you know what I mean?
Those people who tell you what they think you want to hear? How your hair always looks great (even when you know it doesn’t), or how your food is always the most delicious they’ve ever had (even the peanut butter and jelly sandwich), or what you’ve written is awesome (when you know it’s crap).
I don’t need that. In fact, I hate that.
See, I…
I’m writing you this week from one of the most polluted places in the world.
You guessed it—Northern California.
Emissions from the Camp Fire fires accumulated downstream in the San Francisco bay area, reaching record levels exceeding the most polluted cities on the planet.
Experiencing this level of toxicity has been profoundly eye opening about the human cost of uncontrolled pollution and…
“… We have not come into this exquisite world
to hold ourselves hostage from love.
Run, my dear, from anything
that may not strengthen
Your precious budding wings,
Run like hell, my dear,
From anyone likely to put a sharp knife
into the sacred, tender vision
Of your beautiful heart…”
-Hafiz (Sufi poet, 1310-1390)
Yes, he nailed it. We deserve love. We’re worthy of love. (Yes, ALL of us.) We…
Dear One,
What’s the reason for putting off those personal goals, dreams, desires, and juicy projects? Those things we would love to do or know we must do?
The number one reason I hear from people (I can be one of those people too) is, “I don’t have time.”
But you know what? I don’t buy it.
A closer look reveals two common themes:
We make our goals too big—so it seems like we don’t have…
Have you every caught yourself saying, “yes,” when your body/your heart/ your mind screamed, “no?”
Yah, join the club.
I have enough trouble managing all the good stuff that my heart and mouth actually agree on—so many “yeses!”
What’s the story with the yeses we say but don’t really mean? The yeses that pile up and eventually overwhelm us?
For me, it’s my assumptions about what will happen if…
Have you heard of the Rule of Threes?
It’s the smallest number of anything that can create a pattern within our minds—patterns our brains can latch onto.
Three is a power theme within human engagement, compelling the mind, enhancing memory and pleasure.
While I break this rule a lot, it does remind me to keep things simple. It’s crucial when it comes to behavior change. Smart and…
For me, forgiveness has been one of those life lessons–and practices–that has had mind-bending and life altering payoffs. I’ve learned the hard way that holding onto past hurts and trauma consumes precious energy and mind power.
Clinging to anger and resentment is an energy suck that drives stress—the smoldering kind of stress that hangs on and leaves decay and destruction in its path. That…
Clutter makes me absolutely crazy.
My kids tell me I have OCD. The way I am constantly picking things up, sometimes losing their precious stuff (so why didn’t they just put it away themselves!?).
I find that my organizational frenzies calm my mind. The more clutter in my brain, the more peace I feel when I create harmony in my environment. Sure, it’s my sense of harmony, but that’s what…
You’re using competition and comparisons as a tool to check out where you stand on the worthiness scale. There’s just one problem. Competition and comparisons are built on the assumptions we make about others and their lives–not the…
I so miss the monarch butterflies. We used to have hundreds of them in our yard at any given time during the late summer, when milkweed was at its peak. Now, sadly, monarch sightings are a rarity. Something terrible has been happening. The monarch butterfly’s habitat has slowly been shrinking because of the extensive use of glyphosate, otherwise known as Roundup, the most popular herbicide on…
The term was coined by New Zealand physiotherapist, Steve August, to describe what we all look like hunched over our electronic devices.
You know what I’m talking about. It’s how everyone looks these days whether seated or walking along, phone out, head and upper torso leaning into the screen. Hooked!
ihunch is responsible for an…