Empower Your Self

We are empowered when we have the tools and knowledge to create intentional change and respond to life’s challenges in ways that ennoble us and support our quest for a True Life.

We need fortifications for such challenges. As one of my clients said to me, “Healing is not for sissies.”

We need the strength of our minds, hearts, and spirits as we navigate the rough waters and bumpy terrain of our healing paths, and as we discover our potential.

These articles offer inspiration, stories, and practical tools to inspire your powerful inner-guide.

Grace and Me: Love and Beauty in Our Differences

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You know the love that surprises you? That shouldn’t make sense, but makes all the sense in the world?

I love Grace. So much.

We met in my office and connected deeply and urgently. Over what matters most—the essentials of a purpose driven life. How it can be overwhelming, cause suffering, and calls us to deeper understanding, common sense, and gentle nudging in a new direction.

Me, the…

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Simple is Better: the “Rule of Threes”

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Have you heard of the Rule of Threes?

It’s the smallest number of anything that can create a pattern within our minds—patterns our brains can latch onto.

Three is a power theme within human engagement, compelling the mind, enhancing memory and pleasure.

While I break this rule a lot, it does remind me to keep things simple. It’s crucial when it comes to behavior change. Smart and…

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Worthy

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Dear One,

Were we born this way?

Or are we just the unfortunate few (because, you know, look at all those perfectly happy people all around us, who smile at one another, who always sit together, who clearly have lifetime passes to their special tribes—the ones we don’t belong to)?

Searching (and hustling) for worthiness—for how to fit in and where we belong?

If we’d only lucked into the…

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Mercy (Listen to Your Heart)

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Dear One,

Have you ever heard something incongruent with what you believe? Maybe you hadn’t really thought it through before—but your heart tells you on the spot that it’s not true?

But it’s coming from a widely revered source, perhaps one you personally admire, someone who has a good track record for inspiring millions with their wisdom. You hear the words come out of their mouth… and your…

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I’m Grateful

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A grateful life takes work, doesn’t it? Even in the face of so much to be grateful for.

The stresses and traumas of life can tether our focus to what upsets us, needs to be fixed, or has to be done. It’s how our brains were designed—to keep us alive. It’s so easy to forget what makes us blessed and lucky, though our lives are filled to the brim with these things when we look hard enough.

I am…

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Hope.

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Dear One,

Someone once told me that hope is just wishing that things could be different than they are. They didn’t want to have “false” hope after so many struggles and disappointments.

I hear this concern expressed by my clients—many have suffered greatly. Promises were made. The positive outcomes did not come through.

Someone else told me (essentially) that hope was for sissies. In their…

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Learning to Practice “Slow”

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Dear One,

Oh my God, I’m so impatient! Can you relate?

I’m not gunna lie, I want it now. I want to see the results. Now. I want to feel the transformation. Now.

I want to get there fast. And I want the world to keep up with my brain and my intentions.

About ten years ago I received two speeding tickets in rapid succession within a mile from my home. Within a mile!

One was on my way to work. My…

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Jealous: The Heart’s Quest for Belonging

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Jealous–we ALL know the sting of it and have been smacked down by the shame of it, but it’s really a normal part of being humans who thrive on connection. In this article I demystify jealousy, look at it’s purposeful role in our lives (yep, you heard me right), and remove the burden of shame and indignity that always seems to go with it.

Jealous: We All Know it Well

Two recent conversations…

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My Wayward Bag Smackdown: A Tale of Freedom

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A Story of How I Found Freedom From My Upended Plans

“If you want to make God laugh, tell her your plans.” -ubiquitous quote (with humbling accuracy)

Travel Anxiety

I morph into someone unrecognizable–a muddled mess of worry and anxiety–when packing for travel. My hard won calm and cool utterly abandons me, my body taken over by a strange frantic girl, who shoves me out of the way to oversee…

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The Dangerous Myth that Self-Care is Selfish

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The Antidote? Self-Love (In Five Simple Steps).

How Caring for Ourselves FIRST is Vital…for Us AND Others

You’ve heard it a million times. Why? Because it is vital:

“In the event of cabin decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your…

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