Isn’t that exactly what it is when we step up to our challenges and responsibilities—kissing uncertainty?
Uncertainty is risky business.
We might be wrong.
We might be criticized or ridiculed.
It might be excruciatingly hard.
Uncertainty scares us because that’s how our primitive brains are wired—the urge to stay put (or keep walking) kept our ancestors alive.
But you know what?
Embracing the risk, messy and uncomfortable as it can be, is the only way to live our deepest, truest, most authentic lives. It’s the only path to healing I know. And it’s the only way to rise, rise, rise.
So, try this next time the unknown makes you squirm:
- Tell yourself a different story: I am excited and exhilarated for this new experience!
- Soothe the biology of uncertainty that makes it so uncomfortable: I breathe. I soften. I stay curious. I become my compassionate witness. I honor my feelings that are here to protect me. I tell my new story.
Yah, I want that kiss!
Karyn Shanks MD. How to Work with the Grief of Change. 2020.