friendship, the small things are powerful, transformation, affirmations, love

Remind Me of the Little Things

You know how those little things others do for us can pack the biggest punch? And that no matter how practiced we are or sophisticated we seem to others looking in from the outside, we still need the gentle, loving reminders?

That’s what my massage therapist did for me a several years ago.

She massaged me during a time of great trauma and turmoil… too many details to share or even remember, but my body hurt and my soul hurt. One of my challenges at that time was extricating a toxic colleague from my workspace. And reckon with how the hell I let that happen! How had I not asked her to leave ages ago? I saw the signs…

I unloaded this while laying on the table in her sacred space. And fully present, taking me all in—my words, my anguish, my overwhelm—she took a deep breath and said, “Karyn, have you been saying your affirmations?”


Oh my God, I totally forgot. But I live affirmations. How did I let that one slide?

She went on, “I know you know this already, but say something like, the Universe surrounds me with only those people who love and fully support me.”



Love. I deserve love. I can expect it. I can ask for it. I can affirm it for myself. I can reject all else. I can affirm that my life contains only those people who love and honor me. In every corner of my life.

I am so grateful for her listening healing presence that day. And for her insight to remind me of the simple, yet powerful, tool that led to a revelation and ignited a simple practice. That changed the course of my life.

It’s the little things.


p.s. From my archives–

Karyn Shanks, MD. Thought Shifting: Using the Power of Positive Affirmations to Change Our Minds. 2016.

Karyn Shanks MD


Karyn Shanks, MD, is a physician who lives and practices in Iowa City. Her work is inspired by the revolutionary science of Functional Medicine, body-mind wisdom, and the transformational journeys of thousands of clients over her twenty-eight year career. She believes that the bones of healing are in what we do for ourselves.

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