self-empowerment

When Our Hearts Say, “No,” But Our Mouths Say, “Yes.”

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Have you every caught yourself saying, “yes,” when your body/your heart/ your mind screamed, “no?”

Yah, join the club.

I have enough trouble managing all the good stuff that my heart and mouth actually agree on—so many “yeses!”

What’s the story with the yeses we say but don’t really mean? The yeses that pile up and eventually overwhelm us?

For me, it’s my assumptions about what will happen if…

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New Year’s Resolution: Be Soft, Be Gentle, Be Kind (and start with yourself!)

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We all know how hard it is to get our New Year’s resolutions off the ground. Or harder still—sustain them for the long haul.

Why is that? Why is it so dang hard to create positive change in our lives? Change that we want? Change that we know will lead to better lives?

Maybe we start too big. We’re better at small changes—even the small things lead to big shifts in our lives.

Or maybe our…

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The Dangerous Myth that Self-Care is Selfish

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The Antidote? Self-Love (In Five Simple Steps).

How Caring for Ourselves FIRST is Vital…for Us AND Others

You’ve heard it a million times. Why? Because it is vital:

“In the event of cabin decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your…

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The Upside of Our Uncertain Lives

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“The suspense is killing me.”

“I’m absolutely certain…”

“Because that’s how it’s always been.”

These words roll right off our tongues–unconsciously–because we’re wired and trained to resist uncertainty. Honestly, very little unsettles me more. I’m a bit squeamish about not knowing what happens next.

But we can go to extremes to “know for sure:”

  • By creating stories that just aren’t true.
  • By…

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The Curious Science of Embodiment

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Relieve Anxiety by Zipping In, Not Out

What to do with the gnawing discomfort and prickly, excessive energy of anxiety? My go-to strategies are walks, hard work outs, doing chores, writing, weed pulling, filling the bird feeders… something to engage my body and my whole attention to the task.

This strategy of getting into my body is curiously calming and soothing, and often steers me toward…

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The Genius of Our Anxious Minds

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Reframe Anxiety: How to Use Its Wisdom as a Trusted Guide

How does it make sense to use anxious and genius in the same sentence?

Isn’t the opposite true? Aren’t our anxious minds–you know, the way they churn and burn with worry about what has not yet happened, question everything, and stay on high alert–our downfall? A whopping character flaw? Loss of all control of, well, everything? The enemy…

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Clear Clutter for a More Peaceful and Focused Mind

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Clutter makes me absolutely crazy.

My kids tell me I have OCD. The way I am constantly picking things up, sometimes losing their precious stuff (so why didn’t they just put it away themselves!?).

I find that my organizational frenzies calm my mind. The more clutter in my brain, the more peace I feel when I create harmony in my environment. Sure, it’s my sense of harmony, but that’s what…

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Self-Care: How to Cope With the Loneliness

Our efforts at self-care can make us freaks! There may be a sea change of healthy lifestyle enthusiasm out there but our worlds are still filled with people who aren’t there yet. How do we manage the awkward silences or overt criticism that can come from the people in our lives–including trusted family and friends–when we tell them about our meditation practices, healthy eating, or militant…

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We Care. We Hope. We Heal.

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We Care. We Hope. We Heal. A Manifesto to a Healing Life.

We Care.

First, we care for ourselves, with great reverence. We believe in our higher selves and embrace our soul’s vast potential through care of our whole selves: body, mind, and spirit. We become strong. We become whole.

Then we care for others: our families, our communities, and our world. We reach out from our strength and wholeness…

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Optimism: The Key to Starting Over When We’ve Failed

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Once we’ve failed at a resolution or a goal–how do we re-engage and start again? We’ve all felt the weight of this experience–the frustration and the shame of it. How do we rise up, dust ourselves off, and dare to try again?

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over…

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